Feel Less Reactive

Last week we practiced noticing guilt. As teachers and parents, I am sure you noticed guilt around interactions with kids. This is normal and we can forgive ourselves. We also want to work towards being less reactive, over time. 

Mindfulness is the first Foundational Principle of Kind Mind’s program. Mindfulness is all the buzz right now. I love this because the more we talk about it, the more accessible it feels. 

                         “Mindfulness is paying attention to what’s happening right now, with kindness and curiosity.” 
                                                                                 – Mindful Schools, student

Sounds simple, right? The hard part is that our culture works HARD to train our brains to be the opposite of mindful. We are getting alerts constantly, pulling our attention all over the place. Throw kids in the mix and it is a recipe for reactive behavior all around. 

A few things to remember:

  1. When our kids are reactive, keep in mind that we are all reactive at times. This will help eliminate shame for reactive behavior and not aiming for perfection with your kids. 
  2. Mindfulness can be a quiet, daily practice (this is amazing for re-conditioning our brains reactivity over time). 
  3. Mindfulness can be woven into your day, when you find moments of quiet (see Blog Post Quiet).

This week’s practice: 

Option 1

  1. Commit to ONE week of a seated mindfulness practice (download your FREE Guided Audio).
  2. Create an inviting spot to practice (pillow, blanket, candle).
  3. Practice 1-2 times each day, for 3-10 minutes.
  4. Notice how you feel throughout the week.
    1. Are you less reactive?
    2. Are you more patient? 
    3. Do you feel happier? 

Option 2

  1. Commit to being mindful at least TWICE every day this week.  Here are some examples: 
        • Waiting for an appointment – close your eyes and feel your breath
        • Sitting in your car – open the window, close your eyes and listen to the sounds around you
        • Family time – sit quietly and watch your kids without interfering or saying anything
        • Waiting for the school bus – close your eyes for a few moments and notice your feet on the ground

        2. Notice how you feel throughout the week.

        • Are you less reactive?
        • Are you more patient? 
        • Do you feel happier? 

Notice the moments that present throughout the day to practice focusing your attention on one thing. Resist the urge to scroll through your phone, check your email, or be “productive”. We can’t be productive constantly. When we feel the value of stillness and mindful connection, it ends up being more productive in the long run. We can balance our nervous systems and connect with what is most important…REAL LIFE. 

To learn more about mindfulness and our Guided Audio Collection, visit www.kindmindeducation.com.

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