Humility is when we can recognize the fundamental goodness within ourselves, and also see how we need to evolve and grow. We can see our own mastery, and also see that we are still a beginner.
When I found this balance within myself, I was excited by the fact that we are all limitless! That my evolution as a person is never-ending. It brought me a greater sense of acceptance in my failures, imperfections, and mistakes. What a gift!
This is a direct connection to a growth mindset (more on this next week), which we know builds resilience. With children, my job/mission is to teach them something. However, I always go in with an open mind that they also have something to teach me. With this mindset, children have been my best teachers.
As parents and teachers, we often take on an authoritative role. If we can bring a sense of humility to our parenting and teaching, we become limitless and we learn SO SO SO much. Children are wiser than we often give them credit for, and the more we allow them to speak up, without correcting, the more we see how important their messages are.
This week, let’s model humility, in order to teach humility.
This week’s practice:
- Take a few minutes with a pen and paper.
- Write down how you experience your inner goodness. What do you value about who you are as a person?
- Now write down how your shadow shows up in the world. What are some areas for growth?
- Choose 1 thing from each category to focus on for the week. Look for opportunities to celebrate your goodness, AND ways you can do better.
- Take action towards change, slowly.
In the classroom:
For older students:
- Set aside 20 minutes to do the exercise above (This week’s practice). If time, have students share in partners or together as a class.
For younger students:
- Set aside 20 minutes and have the students draw something they really love about themselves, something they are proud of or good at. Then have them draw a picture of something that is hard for them, that they want to practice getting better at (emotional, sharing, running, climbing, cleaning up).
- Allow students to share. Remind them that we are all incredible at some things, and we all have things we can work on improving. This is humility.
- Notice if you are trying to control your child’s behavior or lecturing them.
Some examples: rushing them, getting them to listen, having them clean their dinner plate, mediating a sibling conflict, lecturing them about something.
Side note: we are all guilty of these things sometimes, let go of the guilt! When we notice and bring humility into the picture, we can apologize and practicing listening.
- Notice your tone and try to bring a gentle, kind approach to your message.
- Notice if you don’t allow them to speak or share back. Practice listening to your child more carefully, without judgment, blame, or “I’m right, you’re wrong” mentality.
The more you listen, the more you will learn and feel more connected! This will build a sense of safety in the relationship that we know builds resilience.