Do you ever find yourself in conversation with people, or reading social posts or the news, and getting defensive about your perspective on the topic? I think this is most of us, especially with the way our culture is based on being divided.
We love to categorize, people, politics, religion, race, ethnicity, and the list goes on. I want to take time and remember that we are all human, no matter what we believe, no matter what we think.
Listening without judgment is an ongoing practice. I have to work on breaking free from this way of thinking and being, even when I don’t agree.
One tip that has helped me;
we can recognize our differences (maybe even celebrate them as opportunities to grow and learn), and also see that we are the same in so many ways;
- we all want to feel heard
- we all breathe the same air
- we all have beating hearts
- we all want acceptance and kindness
This mindset helps to separate the “thing” that we are defensive about, from the human behind the perspective.
This week, let’s practice reminding ourselves of our sameness, in that we are all human.
This week’s practice:
- Notice when you are in a disagreement, either with someone directly or with a belief.
- When you notice, think of 3 ways you might relate to that person or belief, from a human perspective.
- Examples: The air you breathe, the need to feel heard, the passion behind your perspective.
- See if the tension loosens and you are able to find acceptance.
- Note: You don’t have to AGREE in order to find acceptance.
In the classroom:
- Notice if students are judging one another or arguing about a difference in opinion.
- Remind them that they are both right in their beliefs, and it is important to respect that with kindness.
- Have the children think of ways they are the same, and think about how they both have feelings and deserve respect and kindness.
- Notice if you are being judgmental or instilling your opinion on your children (they will parrot you, so tuning in is a good way to notice!)
- Remember, the goal is to instill kindness in your children, not hate.
- Remind your child that what you said is your belief, but many other people think differently, and that is okay. We can believe different things, and still, be respectful and kind.
Note: The Family Resilience Kit is a great way to start these conversations and have real-time tools as arguments arise.
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