I said “no” to an invitation and feel a lot of guilt about it. It keeps popping into my head and I feel like I should have said, “yes”, even though I really don’t want to go.
Can you relate to this story? How about this one;
I was reactive with my student/child when they wouldn’t listen to me. I asked them to get their shoes on four times and they still weren’t listening, so I yelled at them and said, “if you can’t listen I am going to leave you behind.” I felt AWFUL for saying this, and of course I didn’t mean it. I was just so frustrated.
A few reminders:
For this week, let’s focus on the emotion of GUILT. Some of us (this used to be ME) hang on to guilt for days and feel guilt for just about everything. This blocks our ability to be resilient, to bounce back to feeling ourselves when we do something we regret, or have to set a boundary (we are allowed to say “no”).
This week is simple. We will recognize our own feelings of guilt and build resilience around it.
This week’s practice:
In the classroom:
Remember to be gentle with yourself, you are reconditioning your brain’s response that has been with you for a lifetime.
To learn more about letting go of guilt with self-compassion, see the Kind Mind Compass + Cards.