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Believe in yourself

Have you heard of imposter syndrome? When suddenly you have a moment of self-doubt, caving inward, maybe even cringing and questioning yourself, “who am I to be doing this?” TRUTH – You ARE enough.

What is SEL Anyway?

Since when did social-emotional learning become about calming our anger and quieting our feelings? It’s hard to find the balance when we need our homes and/or classrooms to be peaceful environments, but we don’t want to send the message that anger or big emotions are not okay and suppress them. SEL is about recognizing our emotions so we can take care of ourselves, with kindness and acceptance.

Balance

Finding balance is not easy. Our culture values efficiency, productivity, and being busy, so when we are not feeling super motivated we might be labeled as lazy (I am SO guilty of this mind trick!). This can leave us with feeling guilty when we want to rest, take a nap, or watch t.v. in the middle of the day.

Self Compassion

Self-compassion is when we recognize our own suffering and take action to relieve it. Raise your hand if you are kind and gentle with yourself? My guess is not many of us.

Compassion

Compassion requires suffering. We need to learn how to lean towards our difficult emotions, celebrate them even, so we can build a more compassionate and resilient world.

Acceptance

Acceptance. Calling all perfection seekers! Perfection seeking as parents, as teachers, as humans, is the opposite of accepting. When we seek perfection, we tend to be more judgmental towards others, even if we keep those judgments to ourselves. This includes JUDGING OUR KIDS and STUDENTS for expressing themselves, challenging us, and showing their emotions, especially when they trigger us.  Judgment is human. We can recognize judgment and then find acceptance.  For me, challenging behavior and big emotions has been a …

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Awe

Awe builds resilience. Think about a time when you hear a song that gave you goosebumps. How about when you stood next to something larger than life and your stomach felt light? What about a time when you saw something so beautiful your jaw dropped?

Self efficacy

Self-efficacy is a personal judgement of how well or poorly a person is able to cope with a given situation.  Too much of a controlled environment as a child can result in low self-efficacy. Instead, we want to build the space for kids to try and fail, and learn that failure is a part of life and human nature (I am working on re-learning this EVERY SINGLE DAY).

Kind Mind Social Emotional Learning, calm boy in classroom

Mindfulness with kids

Mindfulness with Kids I am a firm believer that you need to have a practice in order to teach a practice. We can tell kids to take deep breaths in the heat of an emotional breakdown, but if we don’t know how to stop and take a deep breath ourselves, it just won’t be as effective in helping the child (and yourself!) truly regulate. The first time I truly connected with myself I was 24 years old. Before that, I …

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Guilt

For this week, let’s focus on the emotion of GUILT. Some of us (this used to be ME) hang on to guilt for days and feel guilt for almost everything. This blocks our ability to be resilient, to bounce back to feeling ourselves.

Quiet

Quiet. Talk talk talk. I LOVE to talk, but have learned the importance of silence, so I can listen better and really connect. Who can relate to this scenario; being a child and your parents trying to constantly talk to you, but you don’t feel like it. You don’t feel like sharing or opening up. You roll your eyes and respond with minimal detail. And yet we do the SAME thing that annoyed us to our own kids. WHY?! Let’s …

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Nice to meet you.

Welcome to Adulthood It all started when I became a mom…the triggers. I didn’t realize how much suppressed emotion I was living with until I had my own kids. Or was it my age, 30’s are INTENSE. My name is Lee, I founded Kind Mind because of the work I did in my own life to feel happy, and the commitment I had to not repeat patterns that were harmful to me as a child. I am the middle child, …

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